Goals of the exercise: Face our fear of the unknown, develop an interest in new things, define ourselves
Age of the participants: 13+
Number of participants: 5-16
Duration of the exercise: up to 60 minutes
Materials: a game token for each player, a game board and a set of cards (see Building the game)
Step by step
- All participants choose a game token (game piece, a card with a name/picture) and sit around the game board.
- One player draws a card from the question deck and reads the question aloud. (It can be the facilitator, or the players can take turns.)
- Every player places their token on one of the designated “opinion” positions.
- The players discuss their answers. Why did they choose this opinion? During the discussion, the players may change their mind and move their token to a different position.
- Everyone takes back their token, and another card is drawn.
- The game continues as long as required (or until there are no more cards).
How to create the game set
The board has 6 designated positions – one for the deck of question cards and six “opinion” positions for the player tokens. The opinions are:
- I agree!
- I mostly agree.
- I don’t know…
- I mostly disagree.
- I disagree!
Create a deck of cards with statements which the participants will be expressing their opinions on. The statements are:
- Sometimes I really wonder about my identity.
- The division of gender makes life/love interesting!
- I can say precisely what my preferences and opinions are.
- I am sure that I will never fall in love with a person of the same gender.
- The people of the other gender will always be a mystery to me.
- I’m strong only with my partner.
- I often have inhibitions around a stranger.
- I can imagine life without classification in (two) sexes, gender etc.
- Man-woman relationships are necessary to ensure the survival of mankind.
- I think it’s important that everyone can live the way they want.
- If we love each other enough, the question of power does not matter in a relationship.
- It matters a lot in this society, whether I am male or female.
- Heterosexuals are foreign to me.
- Gender symbols such as clothing, hair, etc. make it clear to others where I belong.
- Gender is an important thing for your own identity.
- I find playing with gender roles interesting.
- I think the “gender deconstruction” is at the moment a typical fashion theme.
- Adaptation to the social conditions is a virtue.
- I can’t understand people who get an operation to change their bodies to follow their felt gender.
- Non-socially compliant people should stay in their subculture.
- My life is preordained of my innate gender.
- Traditional gender identities confuse me!
You can modify or add your own questions to create a personalized deck, for example depending on the age group.
After the game, the participants discuss their experience. Here are some questions for the discussion:
- Why is the unknown so scary to us?
- Can we overcome our fears by gathering as much information as possible?
- Is learning more about the strangers around us enough to guard against prejudice?
- How much self-confidence do people, groups, states and cultures need to tolerate and respect what is different?
- What requirements does tolerance or acceptance have?